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Attract success like a boss

Writer's picture: Kristen TaylorKristen Taylor
Our brains become magnetized with the dominating thoughts which we hold in our minds, and, by means which no man is familiar, these “magnets” attract to us the forces, the people, the circumstances of life which harmonize with the nature of our dominating thoughts. — N. Hill

How can you harness the power of perception bias to achieve massive success? It is easy when you know what to look for.


Perception bias is a cognitive process where we draw a conclusion about something based on what we expect to see. Once we decide what we expect to see, we start to scan the world for evidence that aligns with our expectations.


In essence, we program ourselves to see what we want to see. We filter out what does not align. We create a unique viewpoint that holds true to our perception.


This type of law of attraction can also be demonstrated by the very simplistic example of “looking for hearts” presented by self-improvement guru Mel Robbins? She explains that the shape of a heart exists everywhere in our environment however if you have not trained your mind to look for them, you probably would never notice. Once your start to actively look for them, you see them everywhere. You will find hearts in places that others may not see because you are looking for even the closest representation. Try it for 24 hours and you will be amazed.


Our desires and goals have an undisputable influence on our lives. As research is demonstrating, these influences taint not only our cognition, emotions, and behavior, but also — quite literally — how we see the world.

By “training” your mind to actively look for something, you start to become aware of all the instances in the environment. This can be a very powerful tool or a difficult cross to bear if you allow your mind to search for evidence that does not serve you.


If you “think” negative thoughts, such as only bad things happen to me, what do you think you will see? Your mind will filter out the positive and only see the negative. That is not good, let’s not do that.


Just as easily, you can actively create a habit of looking for instances that serve or benefit you. This is where you start to channel momentum and success. If you focus your mind to look for avenues that will assist you in achieving your goal, well, what do you think your mind will do? It will find opportunities for you in places that may have been staring you in the face before and you just never saw them.


So let’s look at ways we can set our minds up for success.


Clearly define the success that you will be achieving


When deciding what you want to be successful at, make sure you have a clear picture of what it is and why you want it. You must be fully committed to this endeavor for it to work so dig deep and make sure it aligns with your values.


If you are not sure what your values are, try a gratitude challenge. Start by spending 10-minutes a day meditating on what you are grateful for. Do this for 10 days and see what pops up. If the “why” of your goal does not align with your values, reassess. To find happiness in your success, this is key, otherwise, you will reach your goal and only find disappointment.


Create a habit of visualizing that success daily


After you have your success defined, decide what it looks like and create a habit of seeing it coming to fruition every day. Make it a clear picture. Feel the success.

The more you believe in the outcome, the more you see yourself living the outcome, what do you think will happen? Your mind will start finding ways to make it happen. It will align with your perception bias and start identifying opportunities to achieve your goals. These may start to appear as small synchronicities but the compounding effect transforms into momentum.


When they happen, write them down, review them, and be grateful for them. This encourages the process.


Embody success right away


You should not wait for success to act like success, and why would you want to? Start embodying success right away. Find little ways to reinforce your success that will build your confidence.


If you want to become a motivational speaker, look for opportunities to provide training to your coworkers or at a local charity for practice. It is a win-win situation. They receive the learning opportunity and you the chance to hone your craft.


Find new ways to be successful


Look for new and different ways to find success in your endeavor. Be open-minded.

Maybe you want to write a novel. It can take some time to complete a chapter much less an entire book. The greater the time between when you set your goal and when you start to see the clues of success can allow for doubt and fear to creep in and steal the show. Find other ways to feel shorter-term success to help build your momentum. Writing articles and posting them on your website or other websites like here on Medium can give you the little boosts of accomplishment you need to keep you on the path of your larger goal.


Find success in setbacks


In my post "Failure is the new success", I talk about all the benefits that result from trying something new that doesn’t quite pan out as you had hoped. Some may call this failure, but not you. You call this a learning experience. You call this growth and you know that the key to happiness is in growth.


If something doesn’t work, reassess. It doesn’t mean you were wrong, it just means you weren’t right at the time. Redirect and try again.


Have an open mind about what success looks like


Find it everywhere you can. See above for finding new ways to achieve success. Give yourself as many chances as possible to fulfill your dreams and goals. They are all stepping stones to meeting your final end-game which, we know, will just lead to another goal, so why not enjoy the journey?


Believe in yourself, because if you don’t, why would anyone else?


Find ways to exercise your confidence muscle and bask in the glow of the small successes. Every chance you have to acknowledge your success helps you to build confidence. You need all the confidence you can get to gain the momentum you need to reach your goal. Take it anywhere you can find it. And you should because you earned it.


Keep going, remember you are in it for the long haul


Success does not come easy, otherwise, everyone would be doing it. It takes courage and it takes commitment. The larger the goal, the bigger the hurdles (or learning opportunities as we like to call them), the more time and commitment it will take to reach your final (well sub-final) goal. So keep going until you get there.


Be a disruptor


Think outside the box. Make it your way. If no one tried anything new, we would still be in the dark ages. It takes all kinds, trying new things, in new and different ways for our society to keep finding progress. Be a part of the unique class of people that make that happen. It is not going to be easy, but you got this. And keep telling yourself that every day.


***And let me remind you to believe in the phenomenon that occurs when you combine desire, faith, and simple planning to catapult yourself into the realm of all things possible.

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